If I Committed Adultery
A “fling.” An “affair.” A “tryst.” A “one-night stand.” What harm could there be in simply giving in to adultery? Let me count the ways. The adulterous story of David and Bathsheba in 2 Samuel 11 revealed he had no idea the disaster his one-night-stand would lead to: pregnancy, murder, death of the baby, division in the kingdom, his house divided, etc. That led me to think it would be beneficial for men (and their wives) to see at least a few of the many consequences that result from a “moment of weakness” that leads to a life-time of sadness. If I committed adultery...
- My relationship with God would suffer from a break in fellowship.
- I would need to seek forgiveness from my Lord.
- I would suffer from the emotional consequences of guilt.
- I would spend countless hours replaying the failure.
- My wife would suffer the scars of this abuse for the rest of her life.
- Her pain would grieve me deeply and compound my suffering and shame.
- Our relationship would suffer a break in trust, fellowship, and intimacy.
- We would be together, yet feel great loneliness.
- The reputation of my family would suffer loss.
- My sons and daughter would be deeply disappointed and bewildered.
- My grandchildren would not understand.
- My friends would be disappointed and would question my integrity.
- I would lose my job preaching the gospel.
- My evangelism among neighbors would become worthless.
- I might never be employed by a church to preach ever again.
- I would have to step down as a shepherd of this flock.
- I would suffer God's discipline.
- Satan would be thrilled at my failure.
- Satan would work overtime to be sure my shame never departed.
- My wife might divorce me.
- My children might never speak to me.
- Our mutual friends would shy away from us and break fellowship.
- I would bring emotional pain to the woman I committed adultery with.
- I would bring reproach upon that woman.
- If the woman is married, her husband likely would divorce her.
- An unwanted child could be produced.
- My part in conception might trigger an abortion, killing an innocent child.
- Disease might result. SDT’s last a lifetime.
- Some might conclude that all Christians are hypocrites, hurting the gospel.
- My influence among those I have led to Christ would be compromised.
- My health would certainly suffer due to the stress and heartache I caused.
- I might have to start life over again.
- This same sin might be visited upon my family for four generations.
If I, or any man, thought about this reaping what you have sown, it would no doubt “save a soul from death, and cover a multitude of sins.” Men, the pleasure of sin is for a season. The guilt of sin is for a lifetime. Be faithful “until death do you part.”
(Note: Some of these consequences were first seen by me in an article on marriage I read years ago. Some I have added, looking at consequences in my own life.)